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I've heard time and time again, "Money doesn't bring happiness." Of course we all need money to meet our basic needs, but once we have food, clothing, shelter and a few vacations here and there, more money doesn't seem to make a significant difference in our general happiness. Whether it's buying that bigger house, more expensive car or latest pair of designer shoes, these are all temporary material items that we somehow think will make us happier but the "happiness" that these items bring is short lived. And at the same time we still think that a high paying, powerful career will also bring happiness and that feeling of being content.
The struggle women face with having to choose between pursuing that high level career and/or balancing family persists (see Facebook COO Sheryl Sandberg here vs Anne-Marie Slaughter on "Why Women Still Can't Have it All" here), and I can't help but think, what exactly is "it" when we say "Having it all?" Seems to me that "it" is finding happiness and/or that feeling of just being content. This seems to be a universal goal for both women and men. But still endless articles show that a job doesn't necessarily lead to happiness--no matter how high paying; and in some cases a job can contribute to depression. Could it be that our focus is off? If the job and paycheck doesn't bring us happiness and the feeling of content that we are all after, are we chasing (and arguing about) the wrong thing? Should we be seeking significance and not success? Should women and men stop focusing on that 'perfect' job and instead focus on our own internal selves? I don't mean to get all Oprah here, but I actually found this video to be really interesting.